Sorry I haven’t posted much lately. It’s been a busy 48, and I’m just coming up for air.
1. Friday I had all that work to do on the City budget.
2. Then we took time in the afternoon to volunteer at the Durham Rescue Mission.
3. Had to pick up the kids and spend Friday evening at the last Friday event in Hillsborough (with the great music and lemonade).
4. Rehearsal at 7:30 pm for Eurydice.
5. Then Saturday, of course, was my eldest daughter’s birthday. So, bake the cake, wrap the presents, goofing off.
6 Guitar hero and science experiments with the girls.
7. Birthday dinner at Akai Hana with the kids and my ex-wife.
8. Then a family movie together watching The White Stripes, Under Great White Northern Lights.
9. Oh, and my Ex and I even jammed together for the kids… we did The Denial Twist: who knew she played drums, but then again, it’s Meg White.
In short, I’ve been busy with my life. I get a little hot with comments from the likes of Mary Diwell suggesting I need to get on with mine, and stop pestering poor Russ Williams with my armchair detecting.
My friend Marjean Fichtenberg and I shared a good laugh over this when we were in Vancouver. Do you seriously think we’re like this all the time? Do you think we talk this shit 24-7? Marjean’s got a family, children, friends… the times she works in advocating in the name of her dead son’s cause are the exception. And do you think she would be doing this if she didn’t have the stigma of victim / survivor so violently thrust upon her?
Except for a few life intersections (I was born in Trenton, my grandfather worked at the Trenton Air Force base ) I could give a rats ass about Colonel Williams. I wrote a piece back in February that continues to draw comments and traffic… so be it. People want to talk about it, let them do it; I’m certainly not joining in the party, that’s not my scene. I’m certainly not going to cut Williams any slack. I find the case mildly interesting, in part because I know the area where the murders we committed fairly well. That’s it. Oh, and also, I’ve got absolutely no sympathy for the guy, nor do I feel that now is the time to leave the community alone to heal – though that time will come.
I write about a few cases that interest me while I bide my time waiting for clues that will solve Theresa’s cold case. Because if I didn’t – if I shut it down, and went completely back to my life – this is what would happen: People with information might go, “hey, I should contact the family! No wait, maybe I shouldn’t… haven’t heard about that case in some time. Maybe they went back to their lives, maybe they just want to move on and not be reminded, I should leave them alone”.
And then I never would have received the message I was sent on Friday basically blowing Theresa’s case wide open.
To the Mary Diwell’s of the world… your opinion is welcome, I will consider your comments thoughtfully, I will even publish them. But keep your armchair advice to yourself. You haven’t lived through 31 years of an unsolved murder. You have no experience in this affair; I am an expert.